Mirror Work For Helping TG Women
09 May 2012 Leave a Comment
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Dear Claudia- I received so many comments back on this post–I am going to post it again, for those who may have missed it. Please ccomment back, what you like about it, and what it really states about you as tg women. If you wiill ask me a comment, I am getting better at answering. Herewith the article I wrote.
Mirror Behavior For TG Women
15 Mar 2012 2 Comments
by femimage in Fashion Tips For The Transgendered Woman Tags: TG Women and Flirting [Edit]
I was recently at a cocktail party, and an interesting person asked about my work. They discussed “Mirror Behavior”. Goggle for details, but I am very interested in….how this will help the new Trans woman, with her movement. I found about 5 sites on Goggle, full of information.
To apply to how to look more feminine, herewith a few “jewels” I found.
1. Leaning foward towards the person speaking to you. (shows interest in him or her).
2. Straighten your jewelry, or move your hair.
3. Make direct eye contact and do not look at anyone else in the room. Show him interest. All of us are quilty of doing this. However, when you’re interested in dating someone…this is very important.
4. Act shy. Okay all males. This is important, Don’t take control. This is probably the one personality issue, my clients have the most difficulty changing. Leave the controlling personality at work, or at least at home.
5.Keep a prolonged look (but do not make them uncomfortable).
6. Practice not blinking. In fact, practice your facial “looks, smiles, eyes, teeth, etc. before you begin going out, so you get comfortable with your new image. Learn to listen, and look the person in the eyes–they are the only person in the room–don’t glance at everyone that walks by.Try licking your lips SOME, but don’t over-do. Stroke your arm or neck with a finger, stroking is hypnotic!
7. Ask the other person, about themselves. Wait until they ask about you…before you mention very much abouut yourself.
8. Women are comfortable with more space between them…than men are. Generally about 2 feet.
9. When you shake hands, keep your hand shake light, and keep your fingers and skin soft. If you like him, put your other hand…softly on top of his. Remember, to oil your hands at night, some women have hands which are very hard–due to their work. Keep those toes soft, with warm water and lotion. Fresh toe nail polish if you’re goinjg out, with fresh panties and bra. Nothing old or stained! Save your “pretty” garments for going out. Panty shields also help. I suggest Mitchum underarm, for male and female. Odor just can’t get through.
10 And, be sure and lean into them briefly when you are introduced or say hello. Then, step back slightly. Now, it’s his move! If you don’t get a response, then move on, we have all been rejected.
11. Remember their name!
12. This is a must, keep your new feminine voice soft. Use the feminine gestures, I taught you in my Vol 3 (Gestures When Speaking) You can find this at http://www.femimage.com click on DVDs and look for Vol 3.
Keepyour wrist broken, and wear nail polish and nails which are shaped nicely. Wear a very light perfume, a strong perfume is for the old ladies! Pick items up with your finger tips, don’t grab the glass or fork. Take slow bites,
Try to point your toes, towards your date.! Also, try to point your toes and knees, in the same direction. Move your shoulders, a lot! Tilt your head and did I say, Lick Your Lips!!
What Looks Best For You, Expert For Cosmo Magazine, Redbook Magazine
25 Apr 2012 Leave a Comment
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It can! My 4 Types Beauty Panel joins me with great tips to help you know how to put an outfit together, easy.
Their outfit tips are specific to the 4 Types in my Beauty Profiling system. Even if you don’t know your Type, their great tips will help you put together outfits that make you look amazing!
Outfit Tips for Every Type
- Bright, Animated Type 1
Putting together an outfit might not look like a process for you—not a structured one anyway. That’s great! Embrace your random, spontaneous nature and put on whatever feels fresh. Once you’re dressed, stop long enough to check in that you’re wearing something that feels fun to you. Mix Color. No More match-match, so find that scarf and throw it around your shoulders,
- Subtle, Soft Type 2
Your attention to detail is a strength, but don’t let details overwhelm you. Start with a particular item. Then assembe details around it. You might be more willing to try something new if you remind yourself that you don’t have to repeat anything you don’t like. Add Jewelry
Like a Type 2, you might choose an item you want to wear and build an outfit around it. But you’ll be swift about it. Make sure your closet’s set up for quick, practical results. If your priority item for the day isn’t working, scrap it and go with an outfit you know will work.
When you’re Dressing Your Truth, you have a high standard for what you keep in your closet and put on your body. That’s great! Don’t add anything to an outfit that doesn’t meet your standard. If you don’t like something—even if it worked for you in the past—don’t feel obligated to hold onto it.
I wonder how many Type 4′s share Sheryl’s experience with bold color.
Feel like you understand a little more about how to put outfits together? Llearn more tips and hear the outfit inspiration you get some mornings before you ever look in my closet!
Three more great outfit tips for all Types
- When you think about outfit ideas, remember to also think about movement.
The list of your Beauty Profile keywords in my book describes your movement—including the way you put together an outfit! Read the list again with this in mind and embrace your unique process.
- Create a style library.
It doesn’t have to be professional or high-tech. Just take a picture of today’s outfit with the camera on your phone. Putting together an outfit with what you have becomes that much easier when you have an archive of cute outfit ideas you already came up with!
- Try new things and listen to YOUR style. You have a beauty sixth sense: use it.
Dressing Your Truth is a makeover system that turns all these outfit tips into a simple process.
All the clothes in your closet look amazing together—and, most important, they look amazing on you! Our easy-to-use online training program teaches you how to put together outfits, using 5 key elements customized to the movement of your facial features, body language, and even personality.
Creating A More Feminine Personaliy
16 Dec 2011 Leave a Comment
in Creating A More Feminine Personlty Trait Tags: Crreating A More Feminine Personaliity Trait, Transgendered Help Creating A More Female Image
Types, from the Dr. Phil Show today. Oct 22, 2010 show.
Hi everyone, welcome to my FI blog.
In working with serious TG women, many who are considering full time transition, I have noticed some male to female clients…have stronger, more black and white personality types. When in their feminine presentation, this personality type can come across more controlling, less passionate, and often gets in the way of my training.
Today, I watched this show on Dr. Phil, describing
The Five Personalithy Traits by Dr. Sam Gosling, from the Univ of Texas at Austin.
Do you feel, both men and women have the same personality traits, or does one gender generally have more of certain personality traits —due to nature and/or nuture And, can a serious transitioning TG woman work towards changing more male personality traits? If not, does this affect their success and new life? I truly don’t know, and I would love to hear your input and anyone who has transitioned, if this has been an issue/ or if hormones do change some or all, or none of this? Lets discuss this, I am very open—as I often reach a WALL with certain personality types, and have not understood it, until watching this show. Question- Does this apply to transition?
Dr. Sam Gosling is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas and author of Snoop: What Your Stuff Says about You. He explains, “Snoop is about how we can express ourselves, both deliberately and unconsciously, in the spaces around us, and, in turn, how you can look at spaces around people and figure out what they’re like. Some of it they want to tell you, and they’re being authentic when they do that, but some of the things they tell you accidentally, just by the way they leave their objects on their desk, and organize their books and so on.”
“It seems like there is a real consensus that there are five big factors that describe personality right now,” Dr. Phil says. “I’m not saying that it’s perfect. Those five characteristics are openness, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.”
Dr. Gosling describes the five personality traits:
- Openness
“Imagine that you go into a restaurant. Are you the type of person, when you get the menu, who points to the thing you’ve never seen and say, ‘I’ll have that, whatever it is,’ or are you the sort of person who says, ‘I don’t even need to open the menu. I’ll have the spaghetti. I like what I know. I know what I like. Bring me the spaghetti’?” he asks. - Conscientiousness
“Conscientiousness is more about people who think before they act. They plan,” Dr. Gosling says. “Are you the sort of person who only replaces the toilet roll when it runs out, or do you get some beforehand?” - Extroversion
“These people tend to be more dominant. They tend to be more active, and they really get energized by people,” Dr. Gosling explains. “Many people can come to a party, but afterward, you can really tell between the introverts and the extroverts, because the introverts need to go sit down and be alone for a bit to decompress, whereas the extroverts are energized by it.” - Agreeableness
“It’s really people who are warm, sympathetic, versus people who are going to tell it to you bluntly, and they’re not going to try to hide their feelings. They’re going to be direct with you,” Dr. Gosling says. - Neuroticism
This trait relates to stability, stress and worry. “It depends on what kind of a world you live in. If you’re in a world full of threats, then it’s good to be very alert to threats. If you’re in a safe world, which most of us are now, then you can get very anxious and worried, worrying about things that aren’t actually threats to you,” Dr. Gosling explains.
