all- By popular email, requesting to read more about my advanced cliennts….herewith part 2 of the story with Joan….a client of 6 years!
Joan At Breakfast
When the food arrived, I saw a change in Joan’s demeanor. As she picked up both the knife and fork, she became disconnected from me, from the room. I had seen this many times, in TG clients. The instinct to eat fast, and to take large bites, as if they are in a hurry to finish every last crumb as they gulp down their water. The contrast between her graceful appearance and the way she attacked her food—could not be more striking. I reached across e table and touched Joan on the arm, and reminded her of our conversations about eating in a graceful way, regardless of how hungry you are. I encouraged her to sit back and relax and to simply eat more slowly, while still chatting with me. Something as simple, as setting your fork down as you chew so you can enjoy the company of others. To make my point, we noticed a man sitting near us. When he reached for his glass and finished off the glass with a series of large gulps, before setting his glass down. The image could not be more masculine. Joan was surprised and mentioned she had never been aware of this before, but she quickly realized a masculine eating style clashed with her graceful appearance that she had worked so hard to achieve. As an exercise, I had her take a few small bites and then lay her fork down and to reflect and engage with me between bites. I could see Joan struggle with this, but after a while she began to eat in a more feminine way, and she later commented that she felt more feminine than ever, by breaking this old habit. One, which she had not realized she was even doing. It as an Ah-Ha Moment for Joan.
Once we were finished, our waitress was giving us the bill and told Joan how good she looked and how envious she was of Joan’s thin figure.
While getting in the car, Joan realized at 26 yrs old…. she could keep her thin figure, by being aware of how she eats and what she eats.