Archive | April 2011

Spanx Cami Tops For Summer

New Spanx control top, is now in the style of beautiful Summer/Spring Cami Wrap Tops. They also have Cami tops with lace above the breast line. This is so great, as no one will think you’re wearing a Control Top–and this is perfect for the TG woman….who may want to have some extra tummy control..without the appearance of wearing a control girdle. I saw these on for April 29th, 2011 Spanx segment. You can see the photos of each top, on line. The colors are great for Summer: Light Pink, White, Cream, Violet and Black.

Great investment, two in one! Control with the cover up of a beautiful Cami. If you want more control, wear the womans blouse (size) you normally wear. If you would like it loose, go one size up.

They run a little more, but so much hold, and style for your money.

Let me know what you think!


Hello To John/JoAnn

Hello John/Jo Ann-

Thank you for your
comments, regarding my blog and the helpful tips. There are two areas to find
years of articles on TG beauty and life style issues. First, you can look
under: CATEGORIES to find specific areas such as Voice, Movement, Wigs, etc.
Or, you can go back several years– to 2008– and find a treasure of articles
for TG women.

Also Jo Ann, thank you
for asking, about Who Denae is, what I enjoy outside FemImage.  I suppose, I never think
about writing a blog, about my daily life,
  and, my web site has tons of information. But, I understand, you want to know about things…other than bio information, etc.

Okay, I will begin to blog more about personal things–however I would love it if you girls could communicate with other girls
with your Comments on the blog and ask questions that others may also find interesting.

JoAnn, you asked what book I am reading at this time. I am reading The Bond by Lynn Taggart. I have a deep desire,
to learn metaphysical teachings–which will improve my consciousness to overcome many of the false illusions I believed, from parents, teachers, and friends. I find most of us drag our fearful, guilty, childhood impressions (real or imagined) behind us for our entire life—until we discover a way to choose a new future by changing how we think, feel about ourselves…. (which is mostly
feeling we don’t deserve to be loved).  Her research shows, we grow when we “bond” with other people and reunite with others– and she discusses how competition makes us weak when we compete. That competition causes us to isolate more. To join others in a social
community. to discipline yourself to meet others, and create
“bonds” in several different social communities, in your life.

I just started The Bond, and will let you know my final thoughts. She is currently on a book tour, in WA state and Canada. She is a beautiful woman, with a beautiful femininne message.


Should a CD Tell Their Family

I have spoken with a client, Christina who has asked me to post. This is not her real name.

Her question:  Do most Cross Dressers tell their family of orgin? If so, who in the family–perhaps a trusted sister? What about parents from a generation that does not understand?  Would that cause more harm than good (even harm to  you for having now having to deal with the outcome)?

  Lets discuss the pros and cons of  how much a CD tells and what is to much information. We are true to ourselves, but with what boundaries, if any?

 For a Trans Sexual, of course family will know…in most situations. Christina would like to read, how many of you have handled this. Please share your thoughts, what has worked, and perhaps when you wished you had kept your privacy.

 Share your thoughts on the COMMENTS BUTTON.


Come have some fun in Sacramento!

Hi Denae………..I hope everything is going well for you. I would love to get together again and continue where we left off. What you have shared with me the last time we got together has really made a lasting impact in my life. I feel so put together no matter what the circumstance. I seem to flow with confidence. Thank you for working with me and for all your continued support.

I would love to have you be my guest at this years River City Sparkle in Sacramento. Perhaps you can join us. The event is scheduled for October 9th from 5:30 to midnight. It’s a full evening of entertainment, dinner and dancing. I’m sure you will know many of the ladies in attendance. You can read all about it at  Just send me a note and I will take care of everything……………….Lady Di

Best Fit For Your Bra

 Regarding How Should A New CD Measure For A Bra

Hello Ella, this is Denae. Thank you for your question, by email. I am now doing a CC to the blog, on my email replies, as it may help other girls who have similar questions. But first, thank you for all your emails…requesting the location of my newest discovery of a local “replica” (designer look alike) handbag store. For others who are not close to California, and/or you don’t live or shop near a “fashion mart”…. I will be posting some photos of the bags I have purchased for myself and I will show several colors, and if any of you would like one, email me and I will ship one out to you. They generally have new bags every week, but I shop for the Classic bag for everyday in look like designer bags such as: Coco Channel, Louie, Prada, and many others. At these low replica prices, we can enjoy many wild colors and pay much less– for fun colors of red, blue, yellow, green, which I would normally not purchase. The replica prices run about $70.00 for a designer handbag, as the real bags would sell for hundreds. 
Okay, now…getting a bra that fits and is comfortable…is difficult for even the seasoned genetic women. Having the back snap ride upward will cause the cups of your bra to look un-natural and it causes the cups to “point upward”, and only padded bras stand upward when we’re 18.  The new trend, with gg’s…since the bra fitting show on Ophra…is to have a smaller band size and a much larger cup size. There was only one little problem with that. There were no stores that carried the larger size cups over a size D or Double D. Just recently, some of the better retail stores; such as Nordstrom’s are carrying the larger cup size of E.  If comfort is more important to you, than the largest cup sizes, then herewith a bra size chart for men to measure. See bottom of this blog.
 IT is important to not have your band size tight, as this causes a roll of skin under your arm  …and causes a bulge in the back of your dress or under the arm area. If this happens, herewith my suggestions.  First, try increasing your band size up.   I suggest…getting a band size that fits comfortably and does not go up in the back, but will stay down. (This is very important when purchasing a strapless bra, as it will always slip downward in the back as well as the front. Look in the mirror, and try to select a cup size by your body size and proportions… and mostly by your shoulder size. If you’re tall and thin…. I suggest you select a smaller breast size. Women’s breasts are mostly all fat.  This is why; women’s breasts get larger when they’re pregnant or when they have gained weight. If you begin looking at breast size of genetic women, in relationship to their height and weight… thin women and or tall and then women will naturally have small breasts. I occasionally will meet a genetic woman who is thin, and has larger breasts and she will always say… it is genetic in her family. Generally, until breast implants, only women with extra weight had larger breasts.  A great example is…. Dolly Parton. With her new ultra thin body, there is no way on earth…her breasts would be that large. I recently saw one of her original photos from Hee Haw when she was about 21 yrs old…and she was very short and thin, with very small breasts, probably an A cup. For a trans woman, getting clothing to fit, is often difficult; so don’t cause additional fitting problems with a blouse that will not button, due to larger cup sizes.
So, if you like large breasts, please first take a look at your body type.  Always look in a mirror and turn to one side; and cross both arms under your (breast form and bra). Your arms should cross, directly under your breast line, (for a general rule). If your cup is pointing upward, then go back to the measuring tape and get a larger band size, which will stay down better in your back and under your arms. OR try checking how high your have the straps, and let them down some. Now, turn to the side and look again. Fold your arms and see if your arms fit nicely under the bra. If that doesn’t work, try 2 or 3 higher quality brands as they have better holding fabric and styles. Lastly, try several other styles of bra. I have found molded cups with no seams look very natural and have room for breast forms. In my next article, I will discuss the different types of bras, and which breast forms will fit best into each bra style.
  Okay, herewith a measuring chart for men to select the correct bra size. This is different than the genetic girl charts. . And, Ella…let me know how this new way of measuring works out for you—as I believe you were referring to genetic girl measuring charts, and this should work much better for you.
 Girls, please email me. Your emails will not be seen by others, unless I hit publish. You can type in private or okay to publish.
Happy Memorial Day and for many of you…. going to the beach is a great femme experience so, be sure and wear sunscreen and great sunglasses to protect your eyes from sun damage. I live in an ocean resort town near Hwy One, and I am getting ready tonight for my outing to the beach tomorrow. Gosh, all the things a girl must do, to prepare for a day out from shaving my legs, to painting my toe nails, to selecting a swim suit, sun hat, flip-flops, a blouse to wear over. when it gets cool, etc etc.  I think Sarongs are great to wear, with a large straw hat and Jackie O sunglasses. If you’re new to wearing a swimsuit, try purchasing a long wrap around (sarong) and they have them in swimsuit stores, or in catalogs. I found mine in Boston Proper; you can check sarongs with swimsuits on line at
 If you live in Northern California, near the Pacific Coast Highway (Hwy One), wave if you see me. I wear large yellow or red Lilly on my wide brim hat. And, the BoardWalk has a new roller coaster, and I will be on that for sure! I will be screaming the most.
 I hope you, get out and enjoy the weather, too.
I would love to hear from all of you!! I enjoy your photos, with questions.

San Francisco TG Conference

Hello All-

I will keep you informed, but the new South San Francisoco TG Conference, held at the Conference Center will be coming in May or June. Last year, it was a great success with speakers from all over the US. You can plan, a fun time in the city…too  More later, as I get this years details. If I have not met you, plan on attending one of my seminars!