Archive | June 2012

MANY TG WOMEN STRUGGLE. HEREWITH A WONDERFUL WAY OF THINKING ~ LET yOUR lIGHT sHINE

WE ASPIRE TO LIVE THE WORDS AND MEANING BEHIND THE NELSON MANDELA’S 1994 INAUGURAL SPEECH, QUOTING AUTHOR MARIANNE WILLIAMSON:

‘OUR DEEPEST FEAR IS NOT THAT WE ARE INADEQUATE. OUR DEEPEST FEAR IS THAT WE ARE POWERFUL BEYOND MEASURE. IT IS OUR LIGHT, NOT OUR DARKNESS THAT MOST FRIGHTENS US. WE ASK OURSELVES, WHO AM I TO BE BRILLIANT, GORGEOUS, TALENTED, FABULOUS?

ACTUALLY, WHO ARE YOU NOT TO BE?
YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD. YOUR PLAYING SMALL DOES NOT SERVE THE WORLD, WE ARE ALL LIKE FINE LOOSE DIAMONDS. THERE IS NOTHING ENLIGHTENED ABOUT SHRINKING SO THAT OTHER PEOPLE WON’T FEEL INSECURE AROUND YOU.

WE WERE BORN TO MAKE MANIFEST THE GLORY OF GOD THAT IS WITHIN US. IT IS NOT JUST IN SOME OF US, IT IS IN EVERYONE.

AND AS WE LET OUR OWN LIGHT SHINE, WE UNCONSCIOUSLY GIVE OTHER PEOPLE PERMISSION TO DO THE SAME.

AS WE ARE LIBERATED FROM OUR OWN FEAR, OUR PRESENCE AUTOMATICALLY LIBERATES OTHERS LIKE FLOWERS IN THE WIND.’

MARIANNE WILLIAMSON, AS QUOTED BY NELSON MANDELA

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One Step Into The Light. Another Rainbow.

Hello Pamela, thank you for asking…what my favorite or group. I found a clip on U Tube with Beaitiful Art Work. Thank you Karen
One has Moody Blues, One Step Into The Light, I love to read about the Light Force, how the Light Force Comes To Us and To  Whom Does It Return….on this journey.   

Take a look at the short U Tube of Moody Blues Live. It is truly beautiful art work, music.

Type in U Tube and One Step Into The Light.

 Keep asking me questions, they don’t have to be a tg related issues.

Enjoy this live link, with a live concert and live art work.

Selecting A Wig For The Transgendered Woman

How To Select A Wig For The TG Woman, by Denae Doyle www.FemImage

 Hi Karen- Thank you for your email, regarding how and where to select a wig.  A good wig is soooo important. I do not sell wigs, makeup or any products. I coach girls on feminine movement and voice, and of course I cover wigs, makeup.

 Now, having said that….I think a good wig that moves in the wind, and bounces when you move—is generally a more expensive wig, as it has some human hair with synthetic—perhaps 50-50.

Next, if you know how to use a curing iron, then purchase a human hair wig, as it IS real hair. I do teach my girls how to use a curling iron, rollers, or a flat iron.

 Another important factor is your budget. I tell my clients more serious clients  to save for a better wig. Also, this depends on how much you dress. If you’re a full time girl, or someone who is transitioning—I put my clients in a real human hair wig I teach them to curl it, as real human hair will go straight. I determine there skin tone and eye tone, and it is important you put several colors in your wig. You generally want darker roots, as the darker root color will bring out your eyebrows and eyes, giving your face dimension and this will bring attention to your eyes. After a layer of darker roots, then  have fun with lots of different colors of highlights, as this looks more natural then ONE color.  These highlights can be ash blonde or golden blonde or even put in a dash of  golden red along with the gold. Look at your skin tone, is it light, medium or dark.?And, your eyes. The darker your skin and eyes the darker base color you can wear. or with dark skin and hair you can wear one dark color of hair. However, if you’re light skin that burns in the sun, you probably need  lighter colors with perhaps a small percentage of darker roots.

 Where to go in your city? Do your home work. Use the phone book and the Internet. Call and ask their prices. Are they a wig shop or do they custom design one for you. Also, I did not mention…there are many new lace front partial wigs the salons will color to match your hair (on the sides and back, and in front if needed) The partials are very light, and simply blend into your male hair, made to cover any balding area. These are also ideal for the tg woman who has THIN hair all over).

Again, if your just going out at night, and having fun…then select less expensive wigs. This allows you to test several colors and styles over time. If you see someone with great looking wig, ask them where they got it! I am never shy to say to another woman, Oh, I love your ___________(dress, shoes, haircut,) may I ask where you purchased it, I really love it. Most of the time, they will be happy to tell you.

Suggestions-

I would go in and try on the wig., and only over the internet if you occasionally dress (then I would suggest The Breast Store for the less expensive wig).  I would go for a straight wig, not curly. I would cover your neck and once you purchase the wig, have them taper (cut) the wig so it comes in on each side  with some light bangs to cover any lines on the forehead (like Jennifer Anniston use to wear her hair). This tapering should begin at the chin, then a second layer coming in on both side for any Adams apple, and the third layer comes in at the chin.  If you want it long, your tapering will stop at the chin, and then you ask them to leave the back longer and oval it (not a straight across cut).

 Avoid-

Wearing  a long curly cheerleader wig, save those for home. Avoid wearing  a really curly hair. And, avoid a really bleached  all blonde wig, (as it will not have darker roots and will wash your face out, especially if you’re over 45 or 50).

This is the rule I follow when I am selecting a color for a client. Determine the amount of gray you have in your hair. The gray “Lightens” the wrinkles. If you are 50% gray, then go with that percentage of highlights. If you are only 10% do the same. People over 50 generally should put some highlights in their hair. (Remember Elvis before he passed, and he had black hair, with his skin which had wrinkles at his age—this brought more attention to the wrinkles).

 Take some photos , with you of the style you want. And, stand up for what you want, not what they want to push onto you.

Ask pricing, before you make an apt. If you don’t find something you like, then tell them you still want to look. It is like buying a car. You want to find the style that turns you on, the color, and the price!! The right color wig, will lhelp you select the ideal colors of makeup and give you an over-all natural look.

You may need to shop at several places, and when traveling, always try wig salons.

 Are You Afraid To Go In?

 Wig salons probably sell more wigs to CD’s or TS women, than they do genetic females. So, call you make an apt, and say…I am TG and I am looking to purchase a wig that is ———-fill in the blanks. Try on as many wigs as you can. If you’re going full time, a good wig is an investment that you will wear every time you walk out the door, so save your money for the highest quality you can afford, and always remember what their charge will be the cutting the wig into any style you want, or what the charge will be for touch up bangs or a little shorter in the back, etc.  and do your research.

I hope this helps you ,  in your wig journey.

All my best,

Denae

831 479-1282  If you would like me to assist you.

Voice Tips # 1 For TG Women Speaking

Hello Robin- I enjoyed working with you as welll on voice. Your question:

What does the exercise EEEEEEEEEEEE and then HA HA HA HA HA do.

Robin, you will feel your throat/cords pulling IN on EEEEEEEE. 

 Now say HA HA HA HA. You will feel a drop.  With the EEEE exercise, it helps you feel to pull in and almost tighten your cords some.  On HA HA HA you will feel a downward drop and your tonque stays in the bottom of you mouth, allowing lots of air to go out with each word.(This air increasese your volumn). With EEEEE you will begin to feel a vocal coard pull INWARD IN YOUR THROAT. This is a great beginning exercise to practice BOTH while driving in your car. As you begin to feel the difference between the two, we will move on to tip # 2. Practice is the only way, to change your movement and your voice. Most can purchase clothing, wig, or makeup….but ONLY YOU can prevent forest fires…no, no (smiles) Only you can practice the tips I will be giving you. Also, if you have a tape player, speak into that. Also, my Vol 3 DVD is the most popular of my 8 DVDs– as it helps you feel pulling your movements UP together.  I truly feel movement and voice go together, like a beautiful dance..using your hands and legs. So, lets work on both, and please order Vol 3 Gestures While Speaking, from my home page– and I have Vol 3 in a download now.

Thank you Robin, this was a great question.

Hugs,….Denae (

Perfume

) Hello, I had a friend email me.Herewith part of her email and my post about tg and safwty.

There are men approaching women (all women) at gas stations, mallls, etc. They ask the alone woman, what kind of perfume she is wearing. Then they asked if I’d like to sample some fabulous scent they were willing to sell me at very reasonable rate. I probably would have agreed had I not received an e-mail warning of a ‘Wanna smell this neat perfume?’ scam.  THIS IS NOT PERFUME… IT IS ETHER! When you sniff it, you’ll pass out. They’ll take your wallet, your valuables and heaven knows what else.

 From Denae: welcome to the world of women (smiles). When dressed, CD or full time you must have a much higher security awareness when  dressed..  Some men do like to hurt a transgendered woman, we had  here in the San Francisco (Hayward) CA area, and when they realized she was a man (lets say part time transition) they took her life. So, have fun, feel good about yourself, but keep your eyes open. Basically, all the same things you would tell a daughter or friend.  And in closing,, they warned women to not park next to vans with dark windows and sliding door, as it is easy for you to be taken while locking your car….and they pull you into the sliding van door. And, I was thinking of the oldest trick I have encountered. I am driving, and a man will yell out to me, to roll down  my window and he points to my left front tire, and yells my tire is low. Many of you look so good from the FacceBook photos I have been seeing, and from many of my clients at wwwFemImage.com  that you have to havee the same awareness as any woman. So, be ccarreful out there! But, of course have fun looking fabulous

Denae 

Simple Way For TG Women To Have Long, Beautiful Nails Which Are Temporary

Hello Ladies, when it is time to think about going out.

Yes, what to wear and where to go. My finger nails are always a constant source of concern. Applying them at the nail salon is a hassel and I hate to sit there and endure the wait. Here is a great tip, it is the new Kiss All In One Press On Nail, with self adhesive. You can also purchase a BOTTLE (not tube) of extra nail glue, and apply one dab on your most used fingers. (You can easily remove them that night, or …they will stay on for the weekend.–IF YOU PUT A FEW MORE DABS ON..

 Tip: Take some tape and double it. Stick it to your table or bathroom sink/tile.. so the sticky side is on both sides. Place your nails on the tape, so they are not flying all over–as this makes your nail application 100 times easier.. and you can come home, and remove them and SAVE them on your tape. So, go out this week-end and have fun with your new nails. Let me know how they worked for you. I will give you a report on how they stayed for me also.  French tip or colors. Have a great weekend!

Denae

I Would Like To Introduce www. TGreporter On The East Coast by Brianna And TGlife.com by Gina Lance

Hello From Denae;

For all of my west coast readers, and support group attendees, I would like to introduce two new sites on the east coast which I highly recommend.  For helpful information and resources visit www. TGreporter.com by Brianna. 

In addition, visit TGlife.com.  Brianna with www.TGreporter will be reporting all the most current informmation, taping videos at events, and providing photos from events.  So, girls stay informed, amd stay with the best– visit these sites!

And, stay  with me also! Denae at www.FemImage.com for my upcoming information on my DVDs which you can study in the privacy of your own home. My newest topic will be Simple Tips For Improving Your Feminine Voice. This will blend perfectly with my Vol 3 Hand And Head Gestures While Speaking. Of course, my Feminine Walking & Poise can be found on www.FemImage.com by looking at my DVD button.

Happy Reading,

Denae Doyle/Founder-www.FemImage.com

Denae

Enjoy!  Denae of FemImage.com
Don’t forget…  SF Transmarch is Friday June 22nd!
http://www.transmarch.org
https://www.facebook.com/events/350283011691662

This year’s Transmarch activities will begin with a Trans Youth and
Elder Brunch starting at noon.  There will be arts & crafts activities
and t-shirts for everybody at the brunch.

Speaking of t-shirts…  all participants in Transmarch are being asked
to wear purple t-shirts or other purple clothing. Official Transmarch
purple t-shirts will be available for sale at the Rally.

Once again, a motorized trolly will be available for seniors and the
mobility impaired. Anyone with mobility issues should email info (at)
transmarch (dot) org.

An event of this size definitely depends on a lot of volunteer effort.
Anyone wishing to volunteer should please email volunteers (at)
transmarch (dot) org.

The official Transmarch after party, to benefit TGIJP, at the El Rio,
3158 Mission St.  http://www.elriosf.com

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And yet another fundraiser for the Transmarch is being held on Saturday,
June 9th, at Cafe Flore, 2298 Market St. @ Noe.  See
http://www.facebook.com/events/138943052907464/ for details.

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The Diablo Valley Girls (DVG) will be having their next social on
Monday, June 18th, starting at 8 p.m. at Club 1220, 1220 Pine St.,
Walnut Creek. Call (925) 938-4550 for directions.

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Diablo Valley Girls First Summer BBQ
Saturday July 7 from 5 to 10 p.m.

DVG will provide burgers, hot dogs, soft drinks, and the hosted bar.
There will be a tip jar to help defray the cost of the bar. You will
need to bring a dish to share with 6-8 people or a cash donation of $7
in lieu of bringing something.

You MUST RSVP to this event for the location and to arrange what to
bring! And you MUST do your share in leaving Sappho’s home in as good as
or better condition than when we found it! And be sure to bring your
suit and towel if you want to use the hot tub!

info (at) diablovalleygirls (dot) org

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Your impromptu reporter,
Wendi Allen