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Tall Girls ~ Yes, Wear Heels!

Hello from Denae…I am still on vacation and want to thank my assisstant (Robin) for her quest blogging….as she brings a special insight to her blogs–being a successful tg woman who is out there, speaking, moving, and keeping a fabulous job and family. She is happy with where she is, and has made all her own decisions. She came to me over ten years ago, and the rest is history.

Now, I want to thank Jenny for sending me this fabulous articl (and heith photos) as related to wearing heels. I thought you would love this.

Get ready for your winter clothing!

Denae

Dear Denae,
I came across this web site while reading Julia Serano’s blog page.  I think it’s mostly a group of British tall girls and woman.  Overall they deal with being over 6′ with dash and humor.  
I was at a party last week (in guy mode) and noticed a tall, beautiful, young woman in a stunning one shoulder black dress.  She was wearing flats.  I had a chance to talk with her and commented that she was stunning but should be wearing heels.  She explained she was with a short guy at the party and didn’t want to stand over him.  I wish I had found this web site before our encounter.   She was a Lamborghini.  

The International Fashion and Lifestyle Resource for Tall Girls and Women
Here are  few excerpts.  Read the comments all the way to the end.  Yes, tall girls find themselves accuses of being men!  
Hugs, Jenny 

Why Tall Women are like Lamborghini’s

by AMAZONA on JULY 28, 2009

!cid_C9CA7BD1-5095-4EEA-BFDF-77A7565AD999@hsd1_mi_comcast_netIt’s one of the most observed issues surrounding tall women: Should you date significantly shorter men?

Personally, I’ve never bothered to read those articles in the past as I don’t recall a time when I have ever been attracted to a much shorter man. AT 6ft2, I’ve had dalliances with men of 5ft10 and possibly 5ft9 when I was a teenager, and I’ve dated men of 5ft11, 6ft and 6ft1 far more than I’ve dated men of 6ft5 and above but what about proper ‘short’ men? It’s never really crossed my mind, until the other day….

Following a friend’s party recently, I’m now racked with a gigantic schoolgirl crush on one of the sexiest men I think I’ve ever met.  He was so much fun, so hot I nearly fainted and had a body that could make you think that skinny dipping in the Thames in Spring was a great idea (don’t worry, we didn’t).  And to be honest, it wasn’t so much a case of ‘You had me at hello….’ like the movies, since his first words were  ‘F*!k me, you’re f*****g massive’ (a line usually guaranteed to ensure the cold shoulder from me all evening).  However, when he was maybe 5ft7 and I’m 6ft5 in my heels, he might have had a point.

Short man/tall woman couples are all over the media, even more so since Sophie Dahl started dating Jamie Cullum.  So, why are shorter men attracted to tall women who only accentuate their lack of stature?

Several studies have investigated whether height is  a major factor of attractiveness to the average man and almost all of them have found that it is definitely not .  Whilst supermodels are almost always over 5ft9, singers and film stars are often far from statuesque.  Much of the earlier research seems to suggest that  tall women are not more physically attractive than their shorter friends but are perceived as more glamorous and prestigious.

Therefore, to the extent that tall women are preferred as mates, it is probably so that the man can show her off as a hard-to-acquire status symbol, like a Lamborghini. If you’re honest with yourself, you know that when you see a shorter man with a very tall girlfriend or wife, you do wonder just who the hell he is or what he has. It is possible that broadcasting his status in this way may also allow him to be taken more seriously by his male colleagues, friends and inferiors, and so to rise further in status: “Hey, that guy has a 6′ tall wife — he must be a real go-getter”.  And more importantly, parading around your tall wife is a far less vulgar signal of status than, for example, driving up in an obscenely expensive car or sporting tons of jewellry. Consequently, the man does not suffer a loss of reputation as he would with those other signals, and because it is less conspicuous, he is less likely to draw the jealous scorn of those around him. He will provoke class envy in them, for sure.

I was lucky enough to be sent to Monaco yesterday for my day job and I bizarrely ended up at a dinner party with 15 of the most beautiful, supermodel-thin, tall women and 5 older, very successful and much shorter men.  The men were more than enthusiastic about their taller wives and girlfriends and explained that it was almost the norm in Monaco and many have only dated women who were much taller than themselves. It seems the notion of tall women as a status symbol is definitely a reality.

So, the question still stands, do I choose to pursue a man significantly shorter than me? Or am I too tall for him? Maybe, as he’s not an international financier, film star or Formula 1 boss, he doesn’t find tall women attractive and doesn’t need the status boost.  As he’s not wealthy or famous (and those things have never been attractive to me), I’m guessing that I experienced proper sexual  chemistry and, alas, I don’t think there’s a cure for it.

Now, can someone just pop round and explain to him that I’m the next best thing to a Lamborghini except I’m more affordable and I handle better than a Murcielago….

Why Tall Women should wear High Heels

by AMAZONA on DECEMBER 15, 2008

So at 6ft2, I’m very tall. If I hadn’t noticed this fact, I would have found out very quickly – from the ten strangers a day who feel the need to let me know.

There are many strange things about being tall but one of the most annoying has to be complete strangers (or fashion professionals incognito??) who feel compelled to tell me that as a tall girl, I should not wear heels.

 Now

I didn’t wear heels until my early 20’s because I couldn’t get them in my size but now I can and you can’t get me out of them – particularly 3 or 4 inch one’s on a night out.

look, people don’t go around telling short girls they shouldn’t wear flat shoes so why do 60% of the peopl e I meet insist on telling me that, as a tall girl, I shouldn’t wear heels?

Tall women should wear heels and here’s my top reasons why:

– As stylist and fashionista Jay Manuel says “Everyone can look like a supermodel with a bootleg trouser and a high heel” (it does quite ring true if you say ‘ballet flat’ instead of ‘high heel’ , does it?).

– They make you seem leaner and slimmer.

– The give you the best walk which just can’t be replicated in flats.

– They give you better legs, slimmer ankles and accentuate the best of your figure.

– The are the glamorous and somehow that changes how you feel and behave.

– Is your love-life lacking? Well get some high heels on! No, not just because men seem to love them but because, according to the latest research by Dr Maria Cerruoto , wearing high heels improves your pelvic floor muscles, and we modern girls all know what that does for you.

– They make you taller. Yes, I really did say that! Your height is something to be proud of and to be honest, when you’re very tall, 3 inches isn’t actually going to make a whole lot of difference to how tall you look (6ft and 6ft3 all look the same from down there).

– They make your feet look smaller.

– When was the last time you read the words “fabulous flat pump”? Exactly.

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Rachael 01.17.09 at 11:33 pm

I am 5′11″ and i am constantly being told “gosh, you’re tall aren’t you?!!” i’ve started turning round and saying “gosh you’re short aren’t you?!!” and they seem offended by this! well anyway i live in heels and love them! my best friend is a couple of inches shorter than me and always refuses to wear heels because her boyfriend is her height and she didn’t want to be taller than him (even though he’d love it) so i decided to buy her her first pair of knock out heels….and now i can’t get her out of them! so all the short and “average” people out there should get used to it because us tall girls, with our legs and heels are here to stay!

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Lynn 04.04.09 at 5:29 pm

Great post! You make a great argument for wearing high heels. At 5′11″ I’ve heard my entire life that I shouldn’t wear heels–which makes shoe shopping a pain in the butt since I have big feet! I promise to wear some high heels :)

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Alexandra 04.10.09 at 7:28 pm

hey! ive never had a chance to were high heels, but i really want to! i am 5,8 and my boyfriend is 5,5 but that doesn’t seem to bother him nor me, although i do feel self concious around other people and most of my friends are around 5,3. i just need a little more of an uplift before i think i can try on a pair of heels and feel confident enough to go out in them! that is my dream!!! somebody help me feel more confident! xox alex

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Bella 04.13.09 at 6:41 am

hey gals i’ve been reading your comments and they have all encouraged me to wear high heels as a tall girl. i dont want to grow anymore but im only 15. People are always telling me wow your so tall and i never know whether to take it as a compliment or not. both my sisters are shorter than me and their both older.My older sister is very pretty so it’s hard not to compare myself to her. thanks gals for your encouraging comments we tall girls have to stick together.

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Amazona 04.14.09 at 7:51 pm

Hey Bella, we’re so pleased that you like the blog and it’s making you feel better about being tall. It really is a great thing, it’s just that sometimes it takes a while to realise it! (I should know, I’m 6ft2 and taller than everyone in my family, including the boys!!)
x

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Jheri 05.12.09 at 1:03 pm

I’m 190 cm, which is just a bit under 6′3, and wear heals sometimes. When I do comfort is a big thing so I stay with mid heels like Danskos mostly. I do wear taller heels for short amounts of time, but something that doesn’t hurt that I can wear all day is much better.

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Rebecca 05.13.09 at 9:57 pm

I think that I am 6ft now, and I am 15. I would love to wear heels but I feel like I can’t. I don’t like when people that are shorter than me tell me “Do you really need to be any taller?” I am taller than most boys and girls at my school, and it kinda sucks. I am just like why can’t there be any tall guys? But anyways, I really wanna wear heels, I just don’t want people telling me things I already know. “Hey your tall” really wow I would of never found out if you hadn’t told me. It just annoys me. But I AM going to wear heels to my family reunion. [My family is dad side of the family is like 6ft or taller for the guys, but the girls are short, I am always like why can’t I be short? I feel weird being the tall one.]

I loved your guyses stories. I need to gain some type of happiness with my heigth. I am so glad that I found this site.
:)

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Amazona 05.15.09 at 4:49 pm

Hey Rebecca, Thanks so much for you comments and I’m really pleased you like the blog! DEFINITELY wear heels to you family reunion – you’ll look and feel way better. As for boys, I was always way taller than all the boys too… but then I didn’t know enough sporty boys back then! I usually end up dating sportsmen as they are generally taller than average .. You should work out how to meet sporty boys! x

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Amazona 05.15.09 at 4:50 pm

I agree … I can’t be running around in stilettos all day – my feet would never last! Wedges are great tho’… all the benefits with none (or less) of the pain! hahax

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Rebecca 05.15.09 at 7:37 pm

Thank Amazona, I am definitly wearing heels to the reunion. And I might wear heels on my vacation, but I’m not sure if I would wear them to school. I am already taller than just about everyone, with heels thats adding more heighth.

I try to go for the sporty boys, but the only tall ones are the seniors, and they wounldn’t want to date a freshman.

:) Have a fantastic day!

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Nova 05.17.09 at 9:55 pm

The most remarkable experience being tall and unafraid of high heels was New Years Eve 2008. I was wearing a party dress; wide flouncing checked polyester skirt with diamond buttons on a velvet bodice and a wide hot pink sash to top it off. I wore 3.5 in black heels by Oh Deer!. Upon entering the bar a man turned to me and drunkenly exclaimed “Wow! I don’t care if you’re a man, you’re f***ing beautiful!” I was amused but aghast.

The First 5 Second Impression…..That States Female…Not Guy In A Dress

Hello to all the new girls. Many of you ask me, who is Denae Doyle? I am a femininity coach…and through the years…I have found movement is the first 5 second impression that will say you’re female, regardless of what outfit you’re wearing. So, how do you walk in a feminine way, with a sway in your hips, and a glide in your stride? My Vol 1 DVD on Sensual Feminine Movement, will give you  all the tips you need. Vol 3 is also great, as it shows you how to gesture and tilt and move your head while speaking and listening! You must check these out, you can download them…and study them tonight in the privacy of your home! Or, I can ship DVDs in a neutral envelope. Take a look at these simple tips, that will change the way others see you!

http://www.femimage.com/tg_help_videos_new.htm    Email me! Denae

Suggestions For TG Women….

Oh, I was watching the Tyra show recently, and she had a special life coach on…who had the entire audience of girls…wearing dark green garbage bags, with belts at the waist–and he had them walking the cat walk wearing only green garbage bags with a tight belt.  His point was this–It didn’t matter if a girl had on a Prada this or designer that. The clothing was not….what created a feminine, confident female. The suit may make a man…but…. only the clothing….. does not make a truly, feminine woman. And, while clothing styles, make-up, and hair are important–the way we walk, hold our heads,( that special “vib” women project while walking and connecting with others) is the girl people will notice and remember. No one but you, will remember the shoes you wore!

 Others, don’t notice our shoes, or our blouse. Sure, they will “see” and make a three second impression of us by what color outfit etc…we’re wearing,  how the over-all package looks, but the clothing alone does not “sell” you or get you beyond a minute or so. The point was simple–if you can wear a dark green garbage bag with a belt and walk really condiently with a smile and warm beam…you have mastered the art of feminine deportment, beauty, and sensual femininity.

Recently, I attended Southern Comfort in Atlanta, where I speak every year. That Sat night, there were many girls in their long evening gowns….waiting for dinner. The dresses were stunning, but again….it wasn’t just the dress, it was the BEING in the dress. It was the smile, the happiness, the friendly connection, the personality, it was what was being projected–that made others want to approach. I saw several girls, standing alone… in a $1,000.00 beaded gown, who did not come across as a happy, confident female.  I thought to myself…did she think wearing the most expensive dress…would make her “pass”? Sad, to see a beautiful outfit on a gg or tg go un-noticed…due to insecurity, being shy, or simply depending on the outfit to do the work. I suppose it is a balance of a nice presentation, with a confident, feminine, approachable vib and being ”that” girl who walks by…and causes men to leap out of their chairs to get a second look”.

Okay, lets call it, working it!

 So,  get out there and put on your version of a garbage bag…your best casual jeans, and casual blouse with average shoe (instead of the garbage bag). See if the happy, confident, smiling vib you are feeling inside….with approachable smile and eye contact…will work better than the outfit.

 Lets don’t depend on “just clothing” to do all the work. After all, people do look at our faces, and smiles, right? Mostly, everyone wants others to see them, notice them. That is the girl,  everyone remembers. We all want to feel accepted, right?

Blending, Smiling, and taking the time to look at others in the eyes. Get out of racing thoughts in your head, and pull yourself back down….into your body. Feel your body, feel your walk, feel your feet moving on the floor, feel the heel of your foot moving and turning, feel your legs reaching, and feel yourself being happy, feel your eyes opening up and looking around, and feel your lips, …moving, feel your shoulders moving with your head, and projecting how good you feel about yourself…to the world. Don’t be self absorbed– that’s not pretty. Be open, and be you. Mostly, be in your body, and out of your head…with doubt and fear. Look at others in the eyes and ask THEM questions. Begin with the sales person at your local 7-11 store. Even in male mode, begin looking at others in the eyes and saying hello, and asking them how they are. This is wonderful practice, when dressed and out. Do your homework, practice your movement and voice, makeup and hair. Then, set it down and depend on your practice to pull you through. Take a big breath, smile, and go!

E-mail any tips or suggestions you have…for others to read!

Walk YOUR walk,

Denae

Todays Fashion, Tomorrow Can Be Painful! We Love Our Heels!

 

11 Ways to Avoid Back Pain

Hello Girls, and Hello To The BFS Girls. Welcome To Your New BFS BLOG. Feel Free To Comment Or Ask Questions To Each Other Or To Denae Doyle! I Will Attempt To Help You With Any Fashion, Image Tips.
 
Again, Welcome To The BFS Blog and To the FemImage Blog! July 2010
 
Ways To Prevent Back Pain, After Wearing High Heels
 
If you’ve been sidelined by a sore back, you’re not alone. Four out of five people experience back pain at some point, making it the fifth most common reason for visiting the doctor.
Back pain takes various forms, from a persistent dull ache to sudden sharp pain, and has many causes. Sometimes it results from a sprain, fracture, or other accidental injury. It can stem from a disease or medical condition, such as arthritis, fibromyalgia, or spinal stenosis (a narrowing of the spinal canal through which the spinal cord runs). Many people develop back pain simply because they’re overweight or sedentary.
The good news is that most lower back pain usually gets better within a few days or weeks, and surgery is rarely necessary. What’s more, simple self-help strategies such as these can be surprisingly effective at preventing back pain and keeping it from returning:
1. Get more exercise. If your back is hurting, you may think the best way to get relief is to limit exercise and to rest. A day or two of rest may help, but more than that may actually increase your pain. Experts now know that physical activity helps ease inflammation and muscle tension by keeping blood and nutrients flowing to the affected area. When you exercise, always start and end with stretches.
2. Watch your weight. Extra pounds, especially in your midsection, can make back pain worse by shifting your center of gravity and putting strain on your lower back. Staying within 10 pounds of your ideal weight will help control back pain.
3. If you smoke, stop. Because nicotine restricts the flow of nutrient-containing blood to spinal discs, smokers are especially vulnerable to back pain.
4. Sleeping position. If you’re prone to back pain, talk with your doctor about the best sleeping position. Sleeping on your side with your knees pulled up slightly toward your chest is sometimes suggested. Prefer to sleep on your back? Put one pillow under your knees and another under your lower back. Sleeping on your stomach can be especially hard on your back. If you can’t sleep any other way, place a pillow under your hips. No matter how you sleep, a firm mattress is probably best. To firm up a soft mattress, you can place a half-inch-thick plywood board underneath.
5. Pay attention to your posture. The best chair for preventing back pain is one with a straight back or low-back support. Keep your knees a bit higher than your hips while seated. Prop your feet on a stool if you need to. If you must stand for a prolonged period, keep your head up and your stomach pulled in. If possible, rest one foot on a stool — and switch feet every five to 15 minutes.
6. Be careful how you lift. Don’t bend over to lift heavy objects. Bend your knees and squat, pulling in your stomach muscles and holding the object close to your body as you stand up. Don’t twist your body while lifting. If you can, push rather than pull heavy objects. Pushing is easier on the back.
7. Avoid high heels. They can shift your center of gravity and strain your lower back. Stick to a one-inch heel. If you have to go higher, bring along a pair of low-heeled shoes and slip into them if you become uncomfortable.
8. Stash the skinny jeans. Clothing so tight that it interferes with bending, sitting, or walking can aggravate back pain by causing poor posture and misalignment of the spine.
9. Lighten your wallet. Sitting on an overstuffed wallet may cause discomfort and back pain. If you’re going to be sitting for a prolonged period — while driving, for example, take your wallet out of your back pocket.
10. Pick the right handbag or briefcase. Buy a bag or briefcase with a wide, adjustable strap that’s long enough to reach over your head. A messenger bag (like the ones bike messengers wear) is made to wear this way. Having the strap on the opposite shoulder of the bag distributes the weight more evenly and helps keep your shoulders even and your back pain-free. When carrying a heavy bag or case without straps, switch hands frequently to avoid putting all the stress on one side of the body. To lighten the load, periodically purge bags, cases, backpacks, and other carriers of things you don’t need.
11. Forget about back braces. Various back supports are available, from elastic bands to special corsets. They can be helpful after certain kinds of surgery, but there is not much evidence that they help treat chronic back pain. By immobilizing and thus weakening back muscles, back braces may actually aggravate back pain.
SOURCES:
Chou, R. Annals of Internal Medicine, Oct. 2, 2007; vol 147: pp 478-491.
Medline Plus: “Back Pain.”
National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases: “Back Pain,” July 2009.
North American Spine Society: “Back Pain Basics” booklet.
National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke: “Back Pain Information Page,” “Back Pain Information Sheet.”
Family Doctor: “Low Back Pain.”
American Chiropractic Association: “Today’s Fashion Can Be Tomorrow’s Pain.”
Reviewed by Brunilda Nazario, MD on February 25, 2011
© 2011 WebMD, LLC. All rights reserved

How to Wear High Heels in Comfort

Hello- Herewith a great article for wearing heels!

 

How to Wear High Heels in Comfort

By Lisa Kovalovich, From Ladies’ Home Journal.
Enjoy the sexy look of heels — without foot pain. When it comes to looking stylish, nothing beats a gorgeous pair of high heels. Heels make your legs look longer, your body look slimmer, and your whole outfit just a little more polished. Unfortunately for many women, they also make your feet hurt something awful! Thank shoe designers’ propensity for pointy toes, spindly heels, and narrow silhouettes for your aching post-heel feet. And while the American Podiatric Medical Association suggests you should toss any shoes that cause discomfort, the fashionista in you probably finds that impossible. That’s why you need strategies to help you make your high heels work for you, not against you. Read on for tips to wear your high heels comfortably (or at least more comfortably).

Buy the right size. Sure, it seems obvious. But when’s the last time you had the sales associate measure your feet when you bought shoes? Podiatrists know that feet can grow larger as we get older (and pregnancy can result in longer or wider feet, too). That’s why it’s crucial to have your feet measured every time you buy shoes. Make sure there’s a thumbs-width between your longest toe and the shoe tip to give your toes room to move. For heels, this means you may need to go up a size to achieve a comfortable fit.

Stick to round toes. Lucky for us, round-toed shoes are back in style this season! While pointy-toed shoes can wrench your big toe inward, causing joint pain, crunched toes, and even the beginnings of bunions, round-toed shoes allow your toes to lie flat and spread out naturally. That makes for much more comfort. And if you can’t swear off your pointy-toed shoes completely? Keep some round-toed shoes on hand to alternate with the pointy ones.

Don’t go too high. Podiatrists agree that a shorter heel of one-to-two inches is a good choice for comfort and foot health. And with kitten heels still a hot look, that’s great news. Avoid three or four-inch heels, which put undue pressure on the ball and frontal bones of your foot.

Tailor your width. Sometimes the toe isn’t the problem — it’s the width. Many fashion shoes come in a standard medium width. But if you have wide feet, medium-width shoes will feel uncomfortable. When you find a pair of shoes you love, see if they come in a wide width; if not, a shoemaker can usually stretch the shoes to widen the toe box, enhancing the comfort of the shoe.

Cushion up. When you have the shoe size and style right, it’s time to think about cushioning. Many fashion shoes come with less-than-adequate cushioning on the area you need it most: right under the ball of your foot. Ample cushioning will help your feet stay comfy — especially when you’re wearing heels, which shift your weight fully onto the ball of your foot. If your shoes don’t have enough cushioning, consider adding some with a shoe insert. A brand called Foot Petals makes Tip Toes, a flower-shaped insert that provides great cushioning.

Alternate. Wearing heels for many days in a row can make your feet feel ravaged. To maintain some comfort, switch between heels and a flatter pair of shoes. Although heels elongate your legs when you’re wearing a skirt, they are less important when you are wearing trousers, so give feet a rest on those days.

Does Your Lower Back Ache From Wearing Heels

Hello Everyone- Many girls ask me,  how to help lower back pain…after wearing heels.

First,-with no shoes on–do heel lifts several quick times a day…before wearing heels that night.. Train your feet and lower calf–to be standing on the ball of your foot.

Next, lay down across your bed–with your head and arms hanging off the side of the bed downward–towards the floor.. Lift your arms. You will feel a wonderful stretch in your lower back. You can also roll up a towel with rubber bands– and lay down flat on the floor– place the towel under your shoulders. This gives you a wonderful stretch. There is an expensive  plastic back support called “Back Joy” which you can place in your chair,  sit and it wraps upward behind your back and supports your lower back at your desk chair or in the car…you will sit up straight instantly! Very comfortable and your posture will improve that day! Your lower back will not hurt ! Also,  at the office remind yourself to stand up and stretch once every hour! Take off your heels under the desk and wear some flats for part of the day. Ballet shoes are soft and easy on. Take care of your back and feet! And, wear a shoe which is in a WIDE or has an open toe or stretch strap on the heel. Don’t sqeeze your feet! Or, you will walk and stand–as if your feet hurt, after an hour or so. Not a feminine walk, if  your feet hurt! Remember, as I show in my Vol 1–to stand with your weight mostly on your back foot, and have the other foot free, and forward!

Denae