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Thank you "A" for your post


Hi Denae,

I thought I would send you a message about my attending
San Francisco Ballet last night.  I had a couple of items
I wanted to wear, and I had not been out dressed in awhile.

I wore a silk blouse by Citrion which I bought at Nordstroms.
The blouse was black with a muted floral print.  I wore a black
skirt with sequins sown on a strip of black chiffon at the hem.
I accessorized with a silver sequined chiffon shawl I wore
draped evenly around my neck.

The night turned out to be absolutely fabulous, with the least
of that being the performance.  I deposited my coat at the coat
check and the lady in line behind me remarked how lovely my blouse
was and where did I get it.  We had a nice chit-chat about where
I got my blouse until she deposited her coat.  I went to my seat
for the performance.  During the first intermission the woman next
to me asked my how I enjoyed it.  It turns out she was a former
dancer and had moved to San Francisco about five years ago.  We
talked about the arts in San Francisco during that and the second
intermission, and at the end of the performance said our goodbyes.
I went to retrieve my coat and again ran into the lady I had met
earlier.  She again said how much she adored my blouse and I thanked
her profusely.

I relate this because I was able to keep in my voice all the way
through, and I found it was easier as I was more relaxed.  When I
told the former dancer I enjoyed opera, she asked me what would be some
good operas to see initially, since she had never been.  So I was able
to talk in my voice about things my boyself knew a lot about.

I thank you for encouraging me to find my voice and talk, rather than just
go through letters as one might go through scales on a musical instrument.
I know I made mistakes last night when I talked, but if they noticed, they
didn’t let on.  It was so much fun to go dressed in lovely clothes, and then
converse with other women about various topics.  I can’t wait to go to the

By the way, I called my fashion consultant at Nordstrom’s and told her about
the blouse.  She was very happy about the reaction I got.  One should always
thank people who help you in life.

Best always,


Outside Feminity Coaching

Joan and Denae Explore Santa Cruz

Joan and I meet for breakfast at a little place, for locals. Joaa is 26, tall and thin. She wears her hair long, but on this casual day…she pulled it back into a ponytail. Joan is always casual, and I have only seen her in jeans.
I decided to dress in jeans also, to not bring any attention to us. Dressed casually, so we would blend well with the other locals. I wore jeans, with a T-shirt, with a sweater I tied around my shoulders, in case it got cold later in the day. Joan wore a casual long sleeve red top, with nice fitting black jeans with black ankle boots and a casual tan bag thrown over her shoulder. We had to wait, to get a table and we found ourselves a little self-conscious standing in a crowded waiting area. Because she is tall, she became more anxious. . But, I noticed no one was paying any special attention, and I encouraged her to relax and to simply turn towards me and begin to chat softly—to make girl talk—as if we were just two tall girls out having breakfast. Finally, a young waitress called Joan’s name and showed us to our booth. Wow, Joan replied. That was difficult, I felt as if everyone was looking at me. I reminded her, of all the hard training we had done, and how her thin body moved more gracefully than most of the genetic women. She was relieved.

The waitress brought us coffee and menus, and told us she would return to take our order. I looked at the menu and decided upon something light. Scrambled eggs and toast. To my surprise, the thin Joan wanted to order the large breakfast platter, pancakes and all. When I heard this, I had to remind her not to order a meal for a large man, but instead one for a graceful, young woman who watches her figure. Joan quickly changed her order to fruit and yogurt, with eggs…a breakfast more suitable for the image she was trying to portray.

Our waitress appeared, and Joan ordered using her very best feminine voice., and was careful to keep her voice soft, and to smile and to make eye contact while giving her order to the waitress.
I had been watching Joan’s interaction carefully, so I was taken off guard when the waitress turned to me. I quickly recovered, gave her my order, and she left out table as she had done for everyone.
The lessons learned, to be continued!